Follow-Up to Birthdays and Stuff

With Nikki's suggestion (see comments on Birthdays and Stuff), I was able to make Todd's birthday a celebration of his life in a way I did not anticipate. It seems so obvious now what a perfect idea that was. I usually celebrate birthdays with cake and presents and getting together with family and friends because that day is "about me," but I think from now on I will celebrate my birthday (and Todd's) by doing something special for others so that it is not "about me" (or my grief over the loss of Todd), but about giving thanks for the gift of life (and the gift of Todd's life). I didn't include my children in this year's surprise activities, but next year we will do this together and begin a tradition that will honor their daddy's birthday in a healing way.