What I find myself reflecting on today is that Todd would HATE August 2 to trigger these reminders of him. He would want to be remembered for his life and not his death. And thankfully that is true…we do think of him 365 days a year…mostly with smiles and joy for the gift, but also with unavoidable sadness for the loss. So it is with August 2. And thankfully, the new man in our life—Alan—totally gets that and doesn’t think any of this takes anything away from our love for him. He understands that love multiplies…it is fear and selfishness that constrain.